Are you recently facing the difficult decision to end your relationship or file for divorce? If you’re in that space of doubt, uncertainty, and second-guessing yourself, you’re not alone. As someone who has recently navigated divorce myself, I understand the emotional complexities involved. Today, I want to share three simple yet powerful steps that can help you move forward with greater clarity and confidence. You can watch the vlog here
1. Create Space for Reflection
The divorce process can feel like being caught in an emotional washing machine – constant turmoil, legal documents, and endless decisions to make. That’s why creating space for yourself is crucial. This space allows you to:
- Reflect on your feelings
- Decide on next steps
- Clear mental clutter
- Find clarity amidst chaos
Some ways to create this space:
- Taking solitary walks
- Meditation
- Swimming alone
- Any activity that allows quiet reflection
From personal experience, I’ve found that decisions made from a place of calm and clarity are far superior to those made in a state of emotional flux. When you’re tapped into your heart, instinct, and intuition, you make better choices that serve you and your children (if applicable) well.
2. Establish a Strong Support System
Think of this journey as one where you need a walking frame – something to hold you up when things get tough. There will be moments when:
- You feel a crushing weight on your chest
- Anxiety skyrockets
- Your heart races
- Everything seems overwhelming
This is where your support system becomes invaluable. Consider including:
- Personal support (friends and family who are non-judgmental and aligned with your values)
- Professional support (legal advisors)
- Emotional support (therapists, counselors, or spiritual guides)
In my journey, I worked with a shadow worker and shamanic practitioner who provided regular emotional release sessions. This “emotional hygiene” was crucial in helping me face each new step of the process.
3. Prioritize Self-Care
As women, especially mothers, we often put ourselves last. However, self-care isn’t selfish – it’s essential. Some simple self-care practices:
- Taking relaxing baths
- Weekly coffee dates with friends
- Regular emotional check-ins
Remember: When you top up your own batteries first, you’re better equipped to support your children and handle the emotional drain of the divorce process. By taking care of yourself, you can navigate this path with more ease and grace.
Moving Forward
Making the decision to divorce isn’t easy, but by implementing these three steps:
- Creating space for reflection
- Building a strong support system
- Prioritizing self-care
You can navigate this challenging time with more confidence and clarity.
Stay tuned for my next post, where I’ll discuss navigating the legal aspects of divorce and finding appropriate legal support.
To Your Financial Wellness,
Caitriona
